"Six Ways to Stall Estate Planning"

I recently came across an interesting article, "Six Ways to Stall Estate Planning" [PDF] by Thomas Junkin, Senior Vice President of the Fiduciary Trust Company of Canada. In it he examines six mental roadblocks we run into, internal barriers blocking us from our estate planning. While the short summary below is useful it is no substitute for reading the whole two-page article [PDF]; it contains much that anybody who must ponder estate planning (which is pretty much everybody) should know.

1. "I am too busy to worry about estate planning right now."
Don't fall into the trap of thinking that estate planning is neither important nor urgent, Junkin urges: while proper estate planning does take time it is necessary to deal with its complexity immediately. This is especially important in light of the fact that estate planning isn't an exercise in fill-in-the-blanks will preparation, especially in this era of blended families, rapidly changing family law rules and increasingly complex potential decisions.

2. "Thinking about death, especially my own, is frightening."
Yes, it is, no question about it, but it need be faced. That's why I always open my presentations on wills and estates planning [PDF] with this:
Junkin wisely suggests that you make estate planning an intellectual exercise rather than an emotional one. It is difficult, because thinking about executors, beneficiaries and guardians for one's children is an emotional issue. But properly structuring the planning makes it easier to deal with it.

3. "I am confused and intimidated by the complexity of estate planning."
Junkin cautions against falling into either of two extremes: being so disinterested in the fine points that one doesn't proceed, or being so details-oriented that one seeks to become an expert before proceeding. I have been an advocate for some years of detailed estate planning questionnaires which allow people to move through their process at a steady, measured pace which they can adjust to their own comfort level.

4. "My family relationships are strained."
"Awkward family situations lead to procrastination in two ways: Fear of confrontation with your family members, and fear of discussing potentially embarrassing family matters with someone outside the family." Junkin and I are in agreement on the importance of using the skills of your estate planner to help you resolve these emotional dilemma: working with somebody who will help you through these difficult decisions makes those problems solvable.

5. "I think estate planning must be very expensive."
It doesn't have to be expensive, but it will cost money to do properly. It's baffling to many lawyers that people who will not hesitate to spend $1,500 to fix a broken head gasket on their car will balk at spending $400.00 for properly done wills and powers of attorney. You can always take a taxi if the car doesn't work; you can't raise yourself from the dead to retroactively do all of the things for your family that you should have done when you were alive.

6. "I don’t know what I want to do with my estate."
This is where a estate planning in cooperation with your solicitor is vital. Much of the uncertainty comes from not knowing where to begin: many people don't even know the questions to ask, and it's the questions that provide the answers. Find a solicitor who will work through the whole process with you and who can provide access to specialized advice and services (financial planners, etc.) where required for the more sophisticated estates.

Mr. Junkin invites readers to go to Fiduciary Trust's Perspective library and browse their past articles and download copies.